The Big Four Oh is fast approaching and a few folks have asked me how I'm doing, as if it's expected that something as simple as a birthday will inevitably propel me headlong into a midlife crisis.
The truth is, I don't believe in numbers. As far as age is concerned, anyway.
Just ask my grandmother, a wonderful, weathered woman who has experienced her share of joy and misery over the past 92 years. She tells me she is constantly surprised by the old woman who stares back at her from the mirror each morning. She knows in her mind she's 92, but the number never resonates with her spirit.
My daughters will tell you the same thing. Every year on their birthday I ask them a number of questions and record the answers in their baby books. What is your favorite toy? Your favorite song? If you were to get a tattoo today, what would it be? (A great tool for teaching your children why lifelong decisions should be approached cautiously, by the way, as every year we get a good laugh when the girls sigh in relief that their 4-year-old dream of Dora the Explorer isn't permanently etched on their lower back.) And most importantly, How does it feel to be ___ years old?
The answers are telling: "It feels the same," being the most common. We've gotten, "It feels taller," and a very angry 4-year-old once retorted, "I'm four years YOUNG, not four years OLD!"
At 39 and three quarters, I concur. Every birthday I have wondered to myself when I will finally feel grown up, mature, wise and capable. Every year comes and goes and I am still the same person, only with a few more wrinkles and gray hairs.
Conclusion? My body is most definitely growing older, but my spirit can't be measured in years. It's the most practical evidence for eternal life that I have come across so far -- my spirit was made to last forever, and an eternity of living with no end needs no number.
It also means that I only feel older on the outside, not the inside. Inside, I'm just Sarah Perry DelliGatti, no age assignment required. I haven't grown out of my childish fears or my adolescent anxieties -- both continue to require liberal doses of prayer and faith. Experience and wisdom have certainly had their impact, but I don't feel like I've reached some miraculous growing up point where I'm finally capable of handling everything life throws at me. There are days I'm fully competent and days where I toddle to the foot of the cross in full awareness of my dependence on Abba Father. And He would have it no other way.
No obsessing over what is gradually sliding south or the laugh lines that are being etched into my face with every smile and frown. No worries that I haven't yet "made it" in light of the world's standards of success for a woman my age. Only the shell of a woman hiding the spirit of a little girl who comes to her Heavenly Father as He desires, with the faith of a child.
So bring it on, Forty! Someday I will slip this skin and start counting centuries with my Savior!
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